Overall my husband is pretty supportive of the horse hobby. But he has concerns about my safety. Legitimate concerns.
Over a year ago, he asked that I wear both my safety vests whenever jumping, not just XC. And I have, 99% of the time.
|Point Two air vest over Tipperary impact vest.|
At our hunter show a few weeks ago, I brought my safety vests but decided not to wear them. While I’m not completely up on the rules in hunterland, I understand that “non-traditional” attire and tack counts against you in some classes. Looking around, there were dozens and dozens of riders – and not one had a safety vest of any kind.
I decided to see how I felt in the warm-up and would put on the vests if I felt at all nervous. I felt fine. We warmed up and did 3 jump classes wearing traditional hunt attire and that was that.
|Traditional, right? Except for the fleece girl? Close enough?|
Hubs didn’t make it to that show and was very bothered when he realized I didn’t wear the vests. To him, a jump is a jump, and he doesn’t know (or care) about hunters vs eventing vs jumpers vs whatever.
So he gave me an ultimatum: I commit to wearing both vests 100% of the time when jumping, or else he will not support the hobby: no more videoing, attending shows, or even chatting about how it went.He wasn’t rude or pushy. He was concerned and said he didn’t know how else to show me how strongly he feels about this.
Putting myself in his shoes, I’d have similarly strong sentiments about him wearing safety gear when riding motorcycles, for example.
|Safety. So hot right now. Safety.|
I already made a decision about it, and my trainer and barn-mate also came to the same exact conclusion as I did about it. I’ll wear both vests 100% of the time. We’ll stick to jumpers and eventing, but I’ll probably pass on hunter shows; I’d be embarrassed to stick out.
But I’m interested in your opinion. Kind of a sensitive subject, since it involves life-partner relationship, but important. How much does your partner’s preferences impact your horse decisions? What if they feel very strongly vs. less strongly? What do you think about safety vests in general and what are your reasons for wearing or not wearing them?
Funny note, I’m such a cheapskate that the idea of spending ~$30 on a replacement air canister has been enough for me to somehow get my butt back into in the saddle after some hairy moments!